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Letting Go of Wanting - AMG | Ajahn Sunyo | 14 April 2026

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Ceramah ini membahas tentang pentingnya melepaskan keinginan sebagai jalan menuju kebahagiaan sejati dan kedamaian batin. Ajahn Sunyo membuka dengan pembacaan Metta Sutta, menekankan kerendahan hati dan ketenangan dalam meditasi sebagai langkah awal untuk mengakhiri keinginan. Ia menjelaskan bahwa kebahagiaan sejati tidak ditemukan dalam mengejar pengalaman indah, melainkan dalam mengakhiri keinginan itu sendiri, karena keinginan adalah akar penderitaan dan hambatan dalam meditasi. Melalui contoh seperti cerita sup asin dan rubah serta anggur asam, ia mengilustrasikan bagaimana kita sering menginginkan hal-hal yang tidak menyenangkan atau menipu diri sendiri tentang keinginan, dan pentingnya melihat keinginan sebagai penderitaan. Meditasi terpandu yang dipimpinnya mengajarkan untuk mengenali dan melepaskan keinginan dengan kebijaksanaan, bukan kemauan, serta menemukan kedamaian dalam penerimaan terhadap momen saat ini. Setelah meditasi, ia menjelaskan cara membawa perhatian ke kehidupan sehari-hari, seperti saat mengisi baterai, dan menekankan pentingnya kebijaksanaan emosional dalam melepaskan keinginan. Dalam sesi tanya jawab, ia membahas tentang melihat kesempurnaan pada hewan vs manusia dan bagaimana tetap seimbang sambil bertindak untuk kebaikan, menggunakan perumpamaan buaya marah untuk menunjukkan kasih sayang dan kebijaksanaan. Ceramah ditutup dengan pengumuman rencana pindah ke Margaret River, jawaban tentang kunjungan ke Eropa, serta doa dan salam perpisahan. Pesan utamanya adalah bahwa dengan melepaskan keinginan, kita dapat mencapai kebahagiaan yang lebih dalam dan hidup dengan lebih bijaksana dan penuh kasih.

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  1. Pembukaan dan Pembacaan Metta Sutta
    Ajahn Sunyo membuka dengan pembacaan Metta Sutta, kemudian memberikan komentar singkat tentang kerendahan hati dan ketenangan dalam meditasi, serta mengaitkannya dengan penghentian keinginan.
  2. Ajaran Inti: Bersukacita dalam Mengakhiri Keinginan
    Ajahn Sunyo menjelaskan bahwa kebahagiaan sejati ditemukan dalam mengakhiri keinginan, bukan dalam mengejar pengalaman indah. Ia menekankan bahwa keinginan adalah akar penderitaan dan hambatan dalam meditasi.
  3. Contoh dan Perumpamaan tentang Keinginan
    Menggunakan cerita sup asin dan rubah serta anggur asam untuk mengilustrasikan bagaimana kita sering menginginkan hal-hal yang tidak menyenangkan atau menipu diri sendiri tentang keinginan, serta pentingnya melihat keinginan sebagai penderitaan.
  4. Meditasi Terpandu: Melepaskan Keinginan
    Ajahn Sunyo memandu meditasi dengan instruksi untuk mengenali dan melepaskan keinginan, menggunakan kebijaksanaan daripada kemauan, dan menemukan kedamaian dalam penerimaan terhadap momen saat ini.
  5. Membawa Perhatian ke Kehidupan Sehari-hari
    Setelah meditasi, Ajahn Sunyo menjelaskan cara membawa perhatian dari meditasi ke aktivitas sehari-hari, seperti mengisi baterai, dan pentingnya kebijaksanaan emosional dalam melepaskan keinginan.
  6. Tanya Jawab: Menerima dan Bertindak dengan Bijaksana
    Menjawab pertanyaan tentang melihat kesempurnaan pada hewan vs manusia, dan bagaimana tetap seimbang sambil tetap bertindak untuk kebaikan, menggunakan perumpamaan buaya marah untuk menunjukkan kasih sayang dan kebijaksanaan.
  7. Penutup dan Ucapan Terima Kasih
    Ajahn Sunyo mengumumkan rencana pindah ke Margaret River, menjawab pertanyaan tentang kunjungan ke Eropa, dan menutup dengan doa serta salam perpisahan.
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This is what should be done by one who is skilled in goodness and who knows the path of peace.

Let them be able and upright, straightforward and gentle in speech, humble and not conceited, contented and easily satisfied, unburdened with duties and frugal in their ways,

peaceful and calm and wise and skillful, not prideful.

Proud and demanding in nature, let them not do the slightest thing that the wise would later reprove.

We sing in gladness and in safety, may all beings be happy, whatever living beings there may be,

whether they are weak or strong.

Amen.

Committing none, the great or the mighty, medium, short or small, the seen and the unseen, those living near and far away,

those born and to be born, may all beings be happy.

Let none deceive another or despise any being in any state.

Let none, through anger or ill-will, wish harm upon another, even as a mother protects with her life her child, her only child.

So with a boundless heart should one cherish all living beings, radiating kindness over the entire world.

Spreading upwards to the skies and downwards to the depths, outwards and unbounded, freed from hatred and ill-will.

Whether standing or walking, seated or lying down, free from drowsiness, one should sustain this recollection.

This is said to be the sublime.

Abiding by not holding to false views, the pure-hearted one, having clarity of vision, being free from all sense desires, is not born again into this world.

Sadhu, sadhu, sadhu.

All right, everybody.

Nice.

Nice to see you again.

And now I'm supposed to give some Dhamma talk, but we just listened to a Dhamma talk already during the chanting by the Buddha.

And I can't really surpass the Buddha's Dhamma talk.

But anyway, I will give my own humble version, my humble and hopefully not conceited version of a Dhamma talk.

And maybe you can get something out of that as well.

Because the Metta Sutta, you've heard it many times, and many of you will know it by heart.

And it's a very good Sutta to listen to.

And there's many different ideas in there, right?

About being humble and contented and skillful and not proud and all these things.

You've heard it many times before.

And I hope each of you can pick out your own little things from that Sutta, apply it in your own life.

And also in your meditation as well.

In meditation, you also try to be not proud and be humble.

What do I mean by that?

It means, if you be humble, if your meditation so-called doesn't work, then you're like, okay, it's all right.

I'm good enough.

I don't need to be the best meditator of the armadillo meditation group.

Or even, I don't need to be better.

Better.

meditated than i was yesterday or whatever yeah in that way you can be humble and also

you can be at peace as well if you mute your microphone like i'm gonna yeah that's it somebody

was talking through it with the name peace actually anyway you can be humble then you can

be at peace because you're not craving it so much and not proud as well you know if you do attain

a nice meditation you're not like yeah i did it i am better meditator i'm probably better meditator

than sunyo better meditator than arjun brahm i really did it i'm exaggerating but it can be a

bit like that when meditation goes well you're like yeah and now i really know how to meditate

and then you try it again and it fails doesn't it because you're not you're not humble you're proud

anyway

it also talks about the metta sutta talks about desire and peace yeah and these things

are opposites of one another yeah if you have desire then you don't have peace and if you have

peace then you don't have desire so that's maybe something i want to talk about today because

that's how i've been meditating lately myself when you hear a lot of teaching about meditation

yeah yeah

the buddha said is as well you can find peace you can find happiness and you can people teach you

yeah you can find great insights in meditation oh you can be so mindful all day can be so happy

so peace and peaceful and you can get all this happiness and it's true you can get a lot of

happiness in meditation and those teachings when people say that they're helpful to inspire you to

start meditating sit down on the

cushion and close your eyes but if you take those instructions in such a way that they create desire

then they sort of defeat the point because if you sit down and you're not happy where you are

yeah you feel you're not at peace but you want that peace you want something else you want to be

have all the peace and you want to be happy and you want to be happy and you want to be happy and

all these results of meditation that either you heard about or that maybe you've experienced that

before you're gonna crave for it and go after it what is that that is not the right way to meditate

because in meditation let go of craving and there's a little part in the dhammapada which is

some verses by the buddha where a paraphrase

where the buddha says ordinary beings they delight in all sorts of experience of the senses and

even if it would rain gold they still would not be able to buy enough pleasures to be satisfied

but the wise people which is all of you you're all wise people they delight in something else they

don't delight in sensual pleasures what do the people who are the wise people who are the wise people

delight in what do you think the buddha said the wise people who have said delight in ending craving

they delight in the ending of craving yeah now you can use that as a meditation instruction

you sit down what am i going to find the light in in the breath well i could do but in

a virtual could do but can also find the light

and just not wanting anything being happy and content easily satisfied where you are

and that is such a helpful teaching for me because it simplifies the whole meditation in a way

you just have one instruction find happiness in not craving and not desiring and that

removes so many of the hindrances in meditation because one of the hindrances i already talked

about you sit down and you want to get that peace it sounds very abstract when i talk about it like

you want to get that peace but you know what i mean right you're just not happy to be where you

are and want to be somewhere else that's that's the craving and then you're not delighting and

ending craving you're creating more craving

you're creating more craving

so you want to go to the future yeah you want you crave go to the future so instead of desiring a

certain future finding some happiness here and now but with the past as well you know sometimes

we think these thoughts about the past because we have like this subtle desire that we could

have changed the past that it would have been different at least that's what i recognize in

myself now you don't just think about the past

you don't just think about the past you don't just think about the past

um out of no reason at all there's a reason for it and often it's like you want

to change that box but it can also be remembering something delightful from the past and so then

you're craving to recreate that experience you just let go of craving and a lot of thoughts

about the past and the future will already be gone now you might

ask me soon yo i sit at my desk and i just sit in my room and i'm like wow that's it i can't take it in the next life

meditation and i don't have any craving i just have aversion yeah i just don't like being here

i don't like sitting here but in a way that's also craving you know you're craving below that

aversion below that ill will you're craving to not be here in in this moment

you're wanting to be somewhere else so even if you have aversion

to the present moment in a way that's also you could say also a kind of craving

and you have a painful body but for example and you don't want to have a painful body

in a way that's also craving you're averse to your painful body and then then you create

even more pain

in your mind and the buddha compared it to being shot by two arrows instead of one and for those

people who know that simile so don't shoot yourself with the second arrow this is the

arrow of craving then you can find peace in your mind even if your body is uncomfortable

and it's all very easily said not so easily done but it is a very good instruction if you want

to sit

at

simplifying your approach to meditation yeah i got all these instructions about watching their breath

maybe noting their thoughts scanning their body and recollecting the buddha dharmasanga all these things and

they're helpful sometimes can create confusion as well having so many different ideas and you

don't know what to do and that creates doubt in your mind right so in a way doubt is also

can be resolved by this teaching of just letting go of craving

a very simple instruction i like it very much now some some things we crave

actually are painful things or annoying things or unpleasant things you might say ah that's that's

that stupid we would crave unpleasant things but it's true in a in some sense

no i remind i'm reminded of this was so funny there was a here in bodenana in the dining hall

a few years ago and

We've got some lay people living in the monastery,

and they live here for a year before they ordain,

and then they help in the kitchen.

And some of them, they just were students or something,

so they don't know how to cook.

Well, some students know how to cook,

but some of them don't.

And sometimes we got cooks who don't know how to cook.

And this day, I brought this huge pot of soup.

Big pot, I can still imagine it.

I think it was vegetable soup or something.

And Ajahn Brahm took some soup,

put it in like a small bowl.

We don't usually put the soup in a big bowl

because it doesn't work with everything together,

but took some, or in his cup, in his cup,

probably in a cup, and then he pushed the soup

so the next monk could get it, and he took a sip,

and he was like,

whoa, this is the saltiest soup I've ever had.

And then the next monk was,

like, oh, I got to try that.

So he put it in some soup in his cup.

Oh, saltiest soup, bleh, bleh.

And it went all down the line.

And I saw all the monks taking soup,

but I was like, if they're all like bleh,

why would I take it?

I don't want that kind of soup.

But all the other monks, they took the soup.

It was probably the most popular soup ever in Bodhinyana.

Yeah.

And yeah, okay, that's just a little bit of a silly example,

but in a way, you crave to have these unpleasant experiences

as well, in a way, it's like a distraction.

It's something interesting.

Now, in meditation, probably you won't be drinking soup

at the same time, but you might create nasty soup

in your mind, salty soup in your mind.

You're here right now, and there is a possibility for peace,

but sometimes to find that peace,

you have to in a way, face a little bit of boredom

and get through that boredom.

And if you don't get through that boredom,

what might happen, you desire something else

but the present moment.

Doesn't matter what, as long as I'm not here,

I'm going to think about this and that

and then all these stories start,

all these fantasies about whatever, you know,

your fantasies, your stories are not true anymore.

they go in your mind and then blah blah blah and before you know it you forgot about meditation

altogether and you're like oh oh no i don't i've been bad or whatever that's what you might tell

yourself you should meditate yeah so you create these experiences out of desire as well even the

thoughts seem like they come out of nowhere yeah just random thoughts coming out of nowhere

sometimes how your thought how people teach meditation that just rush the thought arise

and pass away having nothing to do with you again it's a useful way of thinking about it but you

might also if you look deeper you see that the thoughts actually have a reason and often the

reason is desire you don't want the stillness you want to listen to your thought like sometimes

people you they you put a thought in your mind and you don't want to listen to your thought

you put them in a silent room before we started started i said when gloria asked me to unmute i

said oh yeah i was muted all day long in my hut you know and so i will unmute myself now

but some people they can't be muted even for a half an hour they always have to listen to

something or talk or anything but it can be the same in your mind yeah not physical talking but

mental talk

and creating this conversation because you're like not happy with this island not you find

it maybe boring or not enticing enough and then it's again a kind of desire

underneath that underneath those thoughts so again if you don't reflect if you see that and

you reflect i'm gonna delight in the ending of craving it's a very simple instruction

and it can't stop even those kind of thoughts if you look deeply enough

then stop with those thoughts so if you can't be with карol like you can have another proclaim and

me it can keep getting longer and longer yes correct and another thing is you're told about

or you have maybe experienced certain peaceful states of meditation

and even when i'm teaching you about just letting go of desire then you might start desire to let

go of desire because then i will be peaceful if i let go of desire so you sit there and you get the

instruction let go of desire and you go yeah i want to let go desire and you're still desiring

something and you tell it then you might tell yourself ah sunya told me that it's better to

not desire so i will not desire those states of meditation or that peace that i've experienced

or might experience i don't care about it well that's a good good way to think but you have to be

truthful about it you you you can't treat those peaceful states of meditation as sour grapes

have you heard the story of the the fox and the sour grapes this is like a story of no story of

aesop's fables a fox was walking through the forest and above him he saw some

beautiful

purple grapes and the fox was quite thirsty and hungry so he thought ah i'm gonna

get some of those grapes and they were above him in the in the in the grape vine

so the fox tried to get the grapes but he couldn't reach them he stood on his hind legs

even stood on his tail just like the kangaroos here in bodhinyana but he still couldn't reach

them and then the fox thought oh those grapes are sour anyway so he tried to convince himself

that he didn't want them anymore but secretly he still wanted them so he just told himself they

were sour but he wasn't convinced that they were that is the same with peaceful meditations when

you tell yourself oh i don't want them they are sour anyway sour grape but you still want them

and deep inside be difficult to find peace so you have to be a bit more clever than the fox

so what you can do is first of all what i said well let me say it later

well first of all you can contemplate the impermanence of these experiences

and you might find some peace that's nice but it will go away again nothing it lasts forever no

experience lasts forever so you can contemplate like that you can also contemplate that if you

have heard of the buddhist teachings on of non-self that these experiences in a way

have nothing to do with you they're just experiences just things out there like watching

some kind of movie on a screen that you're not in control so you stop desiring them because they're

not really yours but finally

to get back to what i've said before you can also look directly at the desire itself if you

have desired for certain experiences or desire to be somewhere else than the present moment

look directly at that feeling at that desire and see how unpleasant it is

if you look at it properly and you see how that desire itself is the suffering then

your mind can let go of that desire because it doesn't want to suffer doesn't want to

desire so that's how i've been recently been meditating quite an easy instruction in a way

but it's very effective because you can apply it to almost all kinds of mind states

that create hindrances in meditation so you want to give that a go in some

group meditation sounds like a good idea all right do you really want it do your desire or not

joke all right then then we can do some meditation together let me actually

open a window here because it's really getting hot in here with all these lamps

and i'll be back in a moment all right thanks for waiting so i'll do uh a

guided meditation i was told about half an hour and then afterwards we uh we'll see

before we start meditating to arrive in this present moment

please listen to the sound of this bell i will ring it three times

what it's super loud you cannot hear it

okay well it made me very peaceful anyway so bing bing bing

okay i'm sorry about that but uh i don't know what to do about it so

let's just then close our eyes and listen to the sound of this present moment zoom may have some sort

of filter to block certain sounds but the present moment is unfiltered and it's just what it is

and because the present moment is just what it is there is no use in desiring for it to be different

if you desire the present moment to be different you're a fool because the present moment is already

here and you can't change what's going on in your life you can't change what's going on in your life

you can't change what's already here and what use is desire anyway to reduce your desire

don't use willpower try and subdue it like those ascetics will burn their body to try

and reduce their desire don't do that use your intelligence your wisdom your insight to reduce

desire

and then you can ask yourself what good is all this craving and this desire for me

especially during meditation does it has it ever brought me the peace has it ever really removed

suffering you'll find that the answer is no then you can tell yourself throughout this meditation

okay i'm sure that some desire will arise

gonna believe it I'm not gonna follow up on it because I know it doesn't really

bring me that peace the one thing the craving is a bad advisor you could say

we're not gonna listen to a bad advice you might look at your mind and ask

yourself is there any kind of desire there right now without judgment if you

do find some desire don't be annoyed with it or think that you're bad or not

a good man say no I just recognize it and look at it maybe you have desire for

your body to be more at ease less painful well we can make the body more

e more at ease and less in pain but first we take care of that desire camera

remove that desire and still relax the body so tell yourself whether or not my

body will relax I'll be happy either way it's okay it's not so bad to have a

painful body I don't crave

you

for a peaceful body and if you reduce that desire then you might find your

body naturally already starts to relax so often what makes the body tense is

exactly that one thing for your body to be different if you make peace with how

the body is more easy to relax and as your body relaxes see if you can

also

find some joy in the fact that you're not desiring to be somewhere else is

that happiness of being content with the here and now you can't find that

happiness or joy yet or during this meditation at all that's also fine we

don't desire it just let it come up and

not without having things in the beginning and the

tomorrow or whatever if you recognize that kind of a desire can turn into certain thoughts but

don't try to force that desire away because that's just another desire instead we use

wisdom again and realize that whether we what we are desiring now has no impact on the future

what happens after meditation is going to happen anyway the desire right now only creates

suffering here and now without having any benefit whatsoever it's the same if you desire

the meditation to become more peaceful so desiring after the meditation you're

desiring what happens inside a meditation but it's the same what happens inside a meditation

is going to happen anyway if you're desiring you're just

creating suffering there's no use at all you might also use some of those contemplations from earlier

what really is there to desire if it's not mine if it's all impermanent

al dukkha and then desire is really kind of stupid in a way and then you just smile at your desire

say ah that's not necessary there's no use and then you see what happens you might find that the desire

disappears through wisdom and what comes in its place is peace but this peace happens by itself

if you desire the peace it will never come instead we have

to be happy with peace but also be happy with non-peace being equanimous in other words

treating all experiences in the same way i'll now be quiet for another 15 minutes

you can use any of these instructions or your own meditation methods

whatever you feel is appropriate and then i will guide you out of the meditation afterwards

okay dear friends it's not the end of the meditation yet please keep your eyes closed

for a little bit longer and ask yourself what am i experiencing right now and what have i

experienced throughout meditation more importantly how did i relate to my experience was i craving

the peace and happiness that i could not find or

find some was i wanting it to stay or desiring it to be even more peaceful or happy

and i realized that it's the desire that's the problem

never the experience itself it's what you add to the experience that creates the problem

or whatever you've experienced throughout this meditation however you're feeling right now

make sure you end meditation with a positive mindset being content with whatever happened

in meditation this was not just good enough this was perfect it was exactly what it was

what it needed to be and i am tell yourself i am wise enough i don't

crave for a certain experience

experiences. I instead delight in ending craving. Okay, there's no use for me to ring the bell

because you won't hear it apparently. So please now gently come out of your meditation,

open your eyes, come back to the world and take some of the attitude you had in meditation with

you into the rest of your day. Don't just make a rude jump from meditation to normal experience.

Take a while. Just settle in into your ordinary experience. See if you can take some of that

peace with you. That's the way to also be mindful of everyday experiences.

It's a question we often get. How can I be mindful throughout the day? It's not so much

about mind pan 우리는 but it's a lot about being mindful of the everyday experiences.

restarting your mindfulness every time you lose it but more about taking the

mindfulness from your meditation like you like we have these electric cars

nowadays you charge the battery and then you can drive really far it's like in

meditation you charge your mindfulness battery and then you use it throughout

the day there's no use to recharge it with very small little amounts that

doesn't really work instead you just boost it up and go anyway meditation is

really a feely feely kind of thing you can use some intellect but be careful

not using it too much when it comes to desire and craving if you want to let

that go thinking about it only goes so far you really have to feel what it's

like to have craving and really

know deep down from intuition that this is not helpful in any way then it just

disappears by itself that is like the wisdom the emotional wisdom that you

need to have and in meditation your mind experienced all sorts of

phenomena yeah we talked about the five hindrances often have you heard before

that probably like ill-will doubt desire

restlessness

sleepiness all these things and sometimes it feels like there are thousands of hindrances

in my mind i don't know about you not just five but anyway often they come and go very quickly

sometimes but i also feel if you're anything like me then there's also throughout your life

throughout your meditation practice there's certain kind of barriers let's say that

that kind of last longer that you kind of take from one meditation into the next and often they

are there because you don't see them they're subtle and once you see them then oh i've been

doing that the whole time for example you might be trying to prove something to yourself like

prove yourself to be a certain kind of meditator like you can do it or whatever or you might

try and get something

insights that you've heard about and attain these things and the subtle desire is there

or maybe you're trying to be too much in control of your meditation always being the one who knows

exactly what's going on trying to be a little bit too wise yeah trying to be wiser than you are

always on top of it these kind of attitudes also very helpful to see if there is a desire

underneath that and almost always there is yeah you want to be in control you want to absurd inside

or you want certain peace or whatever and once you see that then these long-term barriers can

disappear and you make these little breakthroughs in your meditation it can be so helpful so this

is some rice if you let go

desire sorry if you aim to delight in not craving then it's very useful meditation technique that

solves a lot of problems or can do anyway so that's what I'd like to leave you with if there's

any questions then I'm happy to give it a shot anybody got some some questions

um one thing is that when you say that um when you say that you say

got your wording but you say that you are already perfect or something like that it just reminds me

of like I used to have a pet rabbit and then it's like no matter how I look at it like from

what angle and then what time of the day is just so perfect to me right yeah I don't know why I don't

i never have that kind of feeling like towards like any i think for animals for most of the time

it's like for me it's like when i look at animals like cats or dog or like rabbit or hamster any

kind of like animal it's just that they look they just look so perfect to me but for some reason i

cannot look at sometimes i just cannot look at people for the same way yeah it's very easy to

also have love and kindness for animals instead of human beings human beings are so complicated

you know they always it's very easy to see their flaws but animals in a way much more easy

yeah they just do do the animal thing you know the animal nature and they don't you know it's

hard to judge them it's the same with it's ultimately it's the same with human beings

though they just do their human being nature right

you

got people doing all sorts of stuff in the world it's crazy but it's just human being nature you

know just to create hatred and delusion what can you say it's just like you can look at them just

as your little rabbit or whatever so yeah it's just in a way it's fine the way they are you know

in a way it's you could say it's perfect it's it's just a way of looking at it but yeah that's

what i often do you know and it helps also to realize that

yeah other beings are not not uh well in a way they're you could say they're perfect but in

another way nobody is perfect right so you could also say ah nobody's perfect including me so why

would i judge others and why would i judge myself you know it's just nature it's just the way things

are and if i had better wisdom and better knowledge better insight

more experience then maybe i would be different but i don't you know i don't have that wisdom yet

so i'm happy with the way i am and over time i'll learn but for now i'm happy i don't crave to have

certain kind of wisdom i'm just learning from the moment

all righty i suppose in the past weeks all the monks and nuns have already answered all your

questions

perfectly and nobody has any more things to ask which is great i'm gonna look up buddho's monks

and nuns were and i say salu salu thank you for answering everybody's questions that is that saves

me such a headache no i'm joking i'll be happy to ask your questions but if there is nothing

then i want to thank you for being here and meditating with me tonight

and some of you already know but i'm going to start a new monks residence in margaret river

which is like south of bodhinyana about 250 kilometers so i can't keep

coming here to do the talks of armadillo here but maybe i can do it from there i don't know

if that works for you

i mean if it works for the people organizing it but if you would like me to come i would love it

maybe you have to beg a little bit of the organizers say oh so you should still come

although his internet connection might not be so good over there because we're in the middle of the

of the of the nowhere but uh yeah anyway i hope to see you again that's why i'm saying

this would not be the last time

yeah thank you again i wish you i think marion has a question oh

all right that's great i was about to say sadu sadu but no okay marion go for it

sorry um thank you i wanted to like take the opportunity to thank you

i always enjoy very much your talk and like they're very um um the way you you phrase them but

appear very uh clear on the moment i have one question um how do you deal well with the

how can i put it like i understand the idea of being equanimous and not desiring but sometimes

i feel that when i see something that is a bad action maybe i should say something to the person

if if it's possible to um to try to have a beneficial impact like do something yeah and

i don't know if it's better just to be equanimous and just accept the world as it is or sometimes

say something when i see something bad and harmful in order to maybe have a small beneficial result

thank you oh yeah yeah that's a very good question marion thank you so

not having desire doesn't mean you don't do anything or

say tell people anything it just means that when you tell people maybe something as you say bad

that they've done or something they could improve you tell them not from desire but from wisdom

and from compassion instead of let's say somebody does something to you and instead of

saying don't do that out of desire for your own say it out of compassion that they can learn

that they can grow and then you also can have equanimity to that person while at the same time

still hoping that they also grow just like you hope for yourself to grow um it yeah it takes a

bit of a change of mindset but it's okay i think it's okay it's okay it's okay it's okay it's okay

but it can be done that way you know it's just like

what can i compare it to well actually i cut my finger today i was

doing some chiseling and i put my chisel on behind me on some something and it was sticking

out and i turned around and i cut my finger yeah and i can say i i can say oh i desire for the

wound to go away for the cut to go away but you know you don't you don't really desire that you

just put a band-aid on anyway even if you have no desire right it is because that is what you do

for a cut yeah you can be equanimous about cutting yourself i was like oh it's just a

small cut who cares yeah i didn't didn't get upset or whatever but still you have the wisdom

to put a band-aid on otherwise it's just gonna bleed all over the place and everything get messy

yeah and it's the same with people they are like hurt inside and you put like your band-aid on in

a way like you can help them out but without craving yeah um have you heard this is one of

my favorite stories some people know already have you heard the story of the angry crocodile marion

no no i haven't oh okay all right so who who also hasn't heard it before

yeah no yeah okay okay quite a few people haven't heard before okay like ajahn brahm has all these

stories about two bad bricks in the wall you know and after a few years you've heard it so many

times you can even tell it yourself better than that um but i have my own story that you'll

maybe get bored of because i have the story of the angry crocodile that i tell every retreat so what

is the story of the angry crocodile

is the story there was once in the rivers of india a big crocodile

and this crocodile was always biting all the other animals because it was an angry crocodile remember

it was her biting and always yelling at the other animals saying

get out of my river this is my river you don't belong in my river you're all stupid animals and i

gonna

hate you and bite you and always angry and all the animals were so afraid to go to the river

but of course they had to drink still so yeah they needed to go but they really hated this

stupid angry crocodile and the angry crocodile they thought he should know better he should change

he should be a good crocodile but it never worked and they even said to the crocodile

don't be so angry be better but it never worked the crocodile just got angrier and angrier and

his tooth got sharper and sharper and his bite was more and more strong one day though the angry

crocodile was fast asleep with his big crocodile mouth snoring and what happened

there was a little tiny mouse and the mouse walked up to the crocodile the mouse was never upset with

the crocodile it was one of the few animals that never ever told the crocodile off but all the

other animals were like oh no little mouse don't go to the crocodile he'll eat you alive and what

did the mouse do he didn't listen he walked into the crocodile's mouth walked in there

all the animals like no this is the end of little mouse he's gonna be a goner but what did the mouse

do he put his little mouse hand around the crocodile's tooth and let's say that this pointy

thing is the crocodile's tooth and the mouse put his hand around it and whack he pulled out

the crocodile's tooth just like that

and the crocodile woke up and now all the animals were really afraid this was gonna be the end of the

mouse but of course it would be a bad story if the mouse was now eaten alive because that didn't

happen the instead the crocodile was like thank you little mouse that tooth has been hurting me

for such a long time and because of that I was always biting other animals

and being angry but now I can finally be at peace and from that day on the angry crocodile was no

longer an angry crocodile he was a very kind crocodile always taking care of all the other

animals never eating animals again only eating salad and potatoes and the crocodile became a

vegan

yes the first vegan crocodile in the world it happened it really really happened in this story

and the moral of the story is if other people act inappropriately they might try to bite you

in a figuratively sense yeah they try and hurt you they say nasty things to you what are you gonna do

are you gonna be like all the other animals and say ah you stupid don't do that yeah that's not

gonna help instead maybe you can find out that other people are hurting inside they have like a

toothache in a way in their mind they not content with themselves and not happy and not easily

satisfied and therefore they take that up on others yeah sometimes you can be like the little

mouse and pull out their little pain but sometimes

you cannot even do that and that's also a time to be a quantumist say okay maybe I cannot do anything

but sometimes you can do something but then you do it just like the little mouse out of wisdom and

compassion instead of just telling people ah let's say oh this might be what's going on and then you

use some clever psychology you know to get them to change a little bit you give the good example

for example

um

and

that's uh that's the way to get people to change without having desire and without

yeah without cravings you can be a quantum and still change people the buddha helped people all

the time and he was a quantum so you can do the same marion all right oh there's another question

from christelle thank you um it's a practical first i want to express my gratitude that i

appreciate of all your teachings and talk um i always enjoy your talks very much i listen to the

postcards uh postcard that was podcast podcast that you did with piotr in um poland maybe that

was many years ago but that was really interesting that was a very long and very interesting um

especially about not self and all that yeah i'm telling that in case the

people listening here haven't heard it's very interesting anyway i've got a very practical

question um is there any project of you to come to europe and give some teachings and retreats

that would be really really wonderful

well is that a good question or not

well i have a project of starting a monastery

a residence here in australia so that might keep me occupied for a while

but i can of course come to europe as well i don't i'm not stuck here

but at the moment nothing is planned specifically so yeah i'm open to it but

maybe uh someday in the future maybe next year or something yeah yep thank you very much

thank you very much

thank you very much

you're welcome

about the podcast you talked about it was pretty interesting me and piotr we got along pretty well

i've met him here and been in poland with him and uh you know we just had a friendly chat together

about uh different buddhist topics and the main thing was that we both enjoyed both enjoyed it

right and it was not like it was something we had to do which is something we like to do we just

talked just to friends

and it's the same to close this meeting with your meditation as well if you treat your

mind like a friend then you'll enjoy it you have a good time

yeah all right is there any last question sorry comments um if no i think we can

eric eric do you want to speak something let's go ahead yeah thank you for your guidance and

talk uh this morning bonte and wishing you all the best in the new hermitage where you're going

i'm sure it'll be of great benefit to everyone just wanted to offer that gratitude and respect

oh thank you eric nice to see you as well again it's good to see you it's good to see all of you

it's already evening here though in australia not morning and it's getting a bit late so i'm

gonna say goodbye to all of you and i hope to see you again let's end together with the triple

sadhu

one two three

all right