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Ceramah ini membahas tentang rasa takut akan kematian, yang dianggap sebagai masalah yang mendalam oleh penanya. Namun, pembicara, Yuttadhammo Bhikkhu, menegaskan bahwa rasa takut itu sendiri bukanlah masalah sebenarnya. Ia menjelaskan bahwa rasa takut muncul dan lenyap dengan sendirinya berdasarkan pikiran yang memicunya, dan tidak ada 'aku' yang benar-benar memikulnya. Dengan menggunakan perumpamaan anak sapi yang merengek, ia mengibaratkan rasa takut sebagai sesuatu yang boleh muncul dan lenyap tanpa harus selalu dituruti. Kuncinya adalah menghadapi rasa takut dengan penuh kesadaran (mindfulness), bukan dengan mencoba memperbaiki atau mengendalikannya. Dengan cara ini, rasa takut akan 'berkedip duluan' dan akhirnya pergi sepenuhnya, bukan sesuatu yang harus dipikul seumur hidup. Pesan utamanya adalah bahwa rasa takut akan kematian dapat diatasi melalui pemahaman yang benar dan praktik mindfulness, sehingga kita tidak perlu terus-menerus terbebani olehnya.
I really fear death.
I fear the darkness and nothingness.
I fear that I may no longer be able to sense or think.
How can I overcome this fear,
this sinking feeling that I carry around?
Your real problem isn't the fear itself.
This is a great example of what Mahasi Sahara has been talking about.
The fear isn't the real problem.
I guarantee you that fear is not a problem.
I can teach you, I can show you,
and not just me, Buddhism can show you.
That's not the problem.
The problem is that, and it's not just with words,
because clearly, I don't know you,
but based on the way you're phrasing this,
it's quite obvious, most likely,
even though I can't say for sure because I don't know you.
And even by the last thing you say,
is that you have this attachment,
as Mahasi Sahara pointed out in the text just now,
I fear.
I am afraid.
That's your problem.
It really is.
So when you say, I carry around,
you're creating a narrative.
You're creating this concept.
I am carrying this around.
It's not real.
It's not true.
It's not the act of the experience.
It's not the reality of the experience.
Reality, and this is a better way to phrase it,
you don't have to phrase it this way all the time.
You can still tell people,
I'm afraid.
I'm afraid of death.
The way you should phrase it for yourself
to have a clear understanding of what's actually going on
is that the fear arises
and the fear passes away.
That based on thoughts about death,
when a certain thought,
probably a thought about your own death arises,
it triggers fear.
Or the next experience is an experience of fear.
I mean, if you hear me say it like that,
it actually doesn't sound so bad.
And when you start to see for yourself
that that's actually the truth of it,
and you give up the narrative,
the additions that you've put on,
like I am afraid,
I carry this around,
you don't carry anything around.
You don't even exist in that sense.
In this context, there's no you involved.
It's fear arises.
You can observe that.
You can see it arise.
And fear ceases.
The thoughts that lead to the fear
also arise.
And cease.
And so,
overcoming fear
is not the goal.
I mean, it's not the immediate goal.
Let's put it that way.
It's not where your focus should be.
Your focus should rather be on
observing the reality of the fear
and of the things that are causing you the fear.
If you do that,
fear isn't going to be a problem.
It can arise and cease as much as it will.
It's like a...
baby calf.
Well, not exactly,
but this is the analogy they often give us.
A baby calf crying out for its mother.
You don't have to listen to it.
That's what baby cows do.
If you have an ox,
and you want to make it grow to become a strong ox,
that can pull a plow,
you've got to take it away from its mother eventually.
And even if it cries out for its mother,
it's kind of a cruel thing, honestly.
But this is what they do.
This is the analogy.
With an ox,
that might be kind of a cruel thing to do.
But with the mind, it's not.
With the mind, you have to
endure the mind whining.
It's really actually talking about addiction.
The mind is
addicted to things,
or it's inclined to complain about things.
Whenever the mind gives rise,
or whenever this fear arises,
you just have to take it as like the baby cow.
Just whining.
Because you also know better than the baby cow sometimes
what's good for the baby cow.
Baby cows maybe can get spoiled as well.
You don't want them to get spoiled,
so you have to teach them to be productive cows, I guess.
The mind,
if you want the mind to be productive,
you can't spoil it.
This is also another way of spoiling it
when you coddle it with this fear.
You don't have to take the fear seriously.
Let it come, let it go.
Face it.
The best way to describe mindfulness
is you face it.
Face it doesn't mean fix it,
doesn't mean control it,
doesn't mean change it.
When you face it,
it will.
It will blink first.
That's the power of mindfulness.
And you'll get rid of this idea.
Just drop the narrative about
I am afraid,
I carry this around.
That's not the reality.
That's not what's happening.
Fear is arising and ceasing
based on thoughts that trigger the fear.
And all you have to do is start
changing your attitude towards the fear,
towards the objects of the fear.
Just face them.
When they come,
apply mindfulness.
So we have a technique.
Read our booklet on how to be mindful.
It's one way of doing this.
And if you apply that practice,
I guarantee it works.
Many people can guarantee it works.
And you'll see the change.
What I didn't mention is that
eventually the fear does go away.
The fear is a problem.
It's not really the problem.
Once you address the problem,
the fear just goes away.
It doesn't mean you have to
live with the fear for the rest of your life.
In fact, that's the beauty of it.
When you address the problem,
the underlying problem,
the fear just fades away.
Faders away.